Be Your Own Valentine

Valentine’s day has gotten me in trouble in the past because my words were misconstrued by someone and it caused some issues at home. You see,  I sometimes refer to Valentine’s day as “Bound to be Utterly Disappointed Day” not because I get disappointed but because I know so many men and women who end the day in tears or mad because the day didn’t live up to the expectations they had in their minds. Sometimes it’s because they don’t have someone in their life to celebrate with or worse they stick with someone or start a relationship with someone just to not be alone for that day.  Most people end the day disappointed  when they don’t really need to be because they thought their partner was a mind reader and didn’t communicate their expectations, which is why my husband and I have not really celebrated Valentine’s Day as a couple for many years.
We talked about it, he told me how he felt about the day being too commercial and just another day were men and woman are forced to rush out and purchase gifts, buy/make elaborate dinners or do grand gestures to prove how great their love is when he feels it’s the everyday stuff that does that.

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Discrimination with the stroke of a pen

It’s been a weekend of anger and protest, due to President Trump carelessly using the might of his pen to discriminate against Muslims. I don’t want to believe it either, because I wanted a world for my son where we moved so far away from hating or fearing people because they were different from us. But that is what this was; as his own ally stated on Fox News, this was President Trumps way of placing a Muslim Ban but doing so while hiding it behind a legal danger threat to the United States. And most of us saw that, some of you are still not as sure and I think that is what hurts the most. Everyone is so caught up in the division of Left and Right, and buying into the thought that all mainstream media is corrupt or bias. We are too busy ignoring the facts, yelling at each other over the internet and playing into fear on both sides that the end result of war, be it Civil War or World War is starting to feel inevitable. And that is terrifying, heartbreaking and angering. Continue reading

Cash Me Outside…A Mom’s Perspective

Many of you have seen the above video and hashtag #CashMeOutside that has gone viral in one form or another. I currently shared a version on Facebook where a comedian inserted himself into the scenario and pretended he was conversing with this young lady which I admit I found very funny. But after watching numerous clips, reading some comments from strangers and some of the additional videos circulating of this young lady responding to her new found viral fame I started to see this through “Mom eyes”.

This is a video clip of a young girl that was brought on a popular, sensational “Talk Show” by her mother so a fake doctor, the audience and the rest of the world could validate her opinion that their daughter was out of control. Most parents do this on some level; I do it often with my posts about my son on Facebook, he does something funny or strange or even when he misbehaves a bit I post about it looking for validation or confirmation that is normal or for people to laugh at me and my situations with him. Where I feel this mother took a wrong turn is she wasn’t turning to friends, family or even a community of parents online or close to home, she exposed her child’s worst side to the entire world to be consumed for entertainment. And now instead of fixing the problem, a whole new onslaught of issues are arising.